How does divorce affect children?

How does divorce affect children's life?

Big changes, such as divorce, can have a devastating effect on children of all ages, from infants to teenagers and young children. It is natural that every child has a different personality and Reactions may vary, but the general effects may vary with age.

Breastfed babies: They can have problems such as irritability, excessive crying, sleep deprivation, changes in the environment, and schedule after being together with parents affect them mentally and physically.

Toddlers or children learning to walk: If children at this age are not able to understand these difficult concepts, the separation of the parents can lead to sadness as well as isolation and violent behavior such as biting and beating.

School going children: Children of this age usually feel the guilt of separation from their parents, they may also have the fear that the mother or father with whom they are living will also leave them. This thinking can cause them permanent sadness or anxiety.

Growing children: These children blame their parents for the divorce and as a result are cut off from both parents or behave violently at school and outside the home.

How to reduce the impact on children as parents?

As a parent, it is important for you to help your children understand the effects of divorce and adjust their lives accordingly.

It is important to reassure children of all ages that they are not the cause of divorce and that parents will always love them.

In this regard, parents who are on the verge of divorce can take the following steps.

Words, not action: You can say 'Daddy or Mummy still loves you' but these words will only make you believe if you put them into practice whether it is to meet them constantly, to give them gifts or out. 

Weigh first, then speak: Anger, pressure and negative emotions are easily passed on from parents to children, never express negative emotions such as anger, dislike, jealousy, etc., nor utter bad words about your ex-husband or wife.

If you just want to talk or express your negative feelings, talk to someone close to you in private, but avoid talking like that in front of your children.

Continue communication: Your children are watching you closely to see what changes are taking place in the parental relationship during the divorce. Stay in touch. This will help instill a sense of security in children.

Special challenges after divorce

Divorce as a whole is a painful process for all parties, but there are also two special challenges that divorcees face at home.

Discipline: When children are constantly experiencing two different homes, environments and rules, they may develop serious discipline problems.

It is important for you to set homework rules with your children as much as possible and to punish them for violating them. In all cases, follow your rules and regulations consistently.

Children love experiments: It is the parents' job to provide support for their children.

Creating a schedule or routine: Creating a regular schedule for children and setting up a daily routine is also an important issue. Make a thought-provoking schedule for yourself and your children and then help your children understand it.

Make a calendar for your children about when the children will be with the mother and when the father will be with them. Remember that young children's feelings are delicate and immature, so frequent changes in schedule can be painful for children Is.